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Life Coach

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The most successful life coaches are the ones that train their clients to pay them faster than they can run out of problems.

By the hour is a historic billing method but in the 21st century we prefer to pay per demand.

After three wishes we tend to give up.
Westerners are still waiting for the return of their favourite eternal Genie.

Empathetic success

The value of our achievements seems to be determined primarily by our financial success, our status, and our possessions. But what about how we treat others? There seems to be no metric for kindness or connection in our society.

You made a million, you have a property portfolio. You are applauded. But subtle achievements, you spent time with someone when they were in a dark place, you dedicate your time to nurturing those around you. These kindnesses go unnoticed.

There may now be more equality for all to be financially successful, but there is still a lack of acknowledgement for empathetic success. The work of caring for others, be it children, friends, partners, family, is so deeply undervalued. 

So much of moving through mental health issues is having a support network, but as a society if we are all focused on financial achievement, where is the support network? Who is willing to make those sacrifices. Often those that are willing end up the losers economically.
Sitting at the top of the mountain is never quite as interesting as climbing the mountain.

Self Deception

We tell ourselves lies all the time.
Little lies that cover up fears, insecurities.
Lies that make us feel better.
That obscure the truth.
All so we don't see what it is we are avoiding. That which we fear most.

Loss

When you lose someone close to you, someone you love,
There is a silence, deafening, like nothing else.
An absence, a void.
No more conversations, moments or hugs.
A part of your world is missing.
A piece you held so dear.
Nothing can replace them.
There will never be another quite like them.
Inhabiting a place in your heart, your memories and dreams.
The dearly departed, forever lost,
their energy, their life force, returning to the dust.

Dry spell

I want to know why I can't cry
Why the pain rises up inside
The burning knot in my core
There are no tears, just the eternal gnaw
Eating me up and spitting me out
Seems I'm in another drought

- August 2013

It doesn't interest me what you do for a living

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"It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for - and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing. It doesn't interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool - for love - for your dreams - for the adventure of being alive."
Oriah

Work load

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Our entire society could work 60-80% the current full time work load and society would win.

Productivity would remain the same or increase, work related anxiety and mental health issues would be reduced and unemployment would decrease as there would be more positions to share.

For the last few decades we keep converting productivity and efficiency gains into profits for the big end of town in a frenetic race to reach the top of a mountain that doesn't exist. Constant growth is an ideal not a sustainable reality. 

Despite our mammalian biases bigger is not better nor will more more more make you happy. Big macs and air-conditioned McMansions have not lead to the consumerist utopia we hoped for.